SIA SoCal

Virtual Wednesday NoHo Meeting Script

(with additions from April 22, 2020 Business Meeting)

  1. Welcome to a meeting of survivors of incest anonymous. my name is _________, I am a survivor. We hope you will find here the hope, camaraderie, and recovery that we have been privileged to experience.

    Please join me in the Serenity Prayer

    God grant me the serenity
    to accept the things I cannot change,
    the courage to change the things I can,
    and the wisdom to know the difference

  2. SIA is an anonymous fellowship. Everything that is said here in the telephone meeting, and member to member, must be held in confidence. When we feel safe, we can honestly share what’s in our hearts, which is how we truly help each other in SIA.

    • Please keep your phone muted when not sharing and maintain proper zoom etiquette: if you wouldn't do it in an in person meeting, don't do it in a zoom meeting. No revealing clothing, no smoking, drinking alcohol, etc.

    • Some people might not be aware that they are on camera. In the event that the person is unaware that they are on camera, the host may turn off their camera.

    • Please also help us maintain anonymity by making sure other people cannot hear the participants sharing.

    • Please be mindful of any triggering content on your profile picture, the wall behind you, and other persons in the background.

  3. In order to get to know each other let's all introduce ourselves by first name.

  4. This meeting is for adults who were abused as children. This is a place to work on healing the wounds of incest. Would someone please read the Definition of Incest?

  5. The SIA program is based on the 12 steps and 12 traditions adapted from AA, which we try to apply to our lives along with our Slogans and the Serenity Prayer. Would someone please read the 12 Steps ?

  6. We urge you to learn about the SIA steps. They have helped many of us find solutions that lead to serenity. As we learn to place our problems in their true perspective, They lose their power to dominate our thoughts and our lives.

    We read one Tradition per meeting, the tradition of the Month is ___ (Read the Tradition )

  7. Would someone please volunteer to read The Legacy of Incest?

  8. Would someone please volunteer to read The Solution?

  9. Before sharing, we read the Abbreviated 12 Guidelines for Safe Sharing unless someone would like the Full Version read. Would anyone prefer the full version (pause to see, then ask for a volunteer to read some or all of the guidelines)

  10. We have until 8:55 for sharing, So we have ____ people tonight, that means we have (use table below: Find the column with time, then use the row with the number of people in the room to see how long the shares should be)
     time/people 7:45
    70 min    		7:50
    65 min    		 7:55
    60 min    		 8:00
    55 min    		 8:05
    50 min    		 8:10
    45 min    		 8:15
    40 min    		8:20
    35 min
    5 min shares14 people13 people12 people 11 people 10 people 9 people 8 people7 people
    4 min shares18 people 16 people 15 people 14 people 13 people11 people 10 people9 people
    3 min shares23 people 22 people20 people 18 people 17 people 15 people13 people12 people
    2 min shares35 people 33 people30 people 27 people 25 people 23 people 20 people18 people
    The timer will go off, and then you will have 1 minute to complete your share before the timer goes off again.

  11. Would someone volunteer to be our Timekeeper? (When someone volunteers, thank them.)

  12. Who would like to share?

Closing

(at 8:55) Our time for sharing is now over. Remember, if you didn’t get a chance to share, and still wish to, please find someone to share with after the meeting. As we bring this meeting to a close, I would like to thank _______ our time keeper, and all those who participated by listening or sharing.

A gentle reminder: The opinions expressed here were strictly those of the person who gave them. Take what you liked and leave the rest.

The sharing you heard here today was spoken in confidence and should be treated as confidential. Keep it within the confines of your mind. Conversation after the meeting is encouraged. However, we caution ourselves to ask permission before speaking about content shared during the meeting.

For those of you who haven’t been with us long: please remember, whatever your problems, there are those among us that have them too. As you open your minds and hearts, you will soon discover that though you may not like all of us, you will care about us in a very special way––the same way we already care about you. Talk with one another, reason things out, but let there be no gossip or criticism. Instead, let the love and peace of the program grow in you one day at a time.

Would someone please read the 12 Promises?

We ask our Higher Power to keep safe those of us who are not here today. Please send them our support and let them know they are in our prayers. Would all who care to please join us in the Serenity Prayer:

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference